Blog 10: It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It

I admit it...I AM NOT THE MAN I USED TO BE!

I am soooo tired of seeing the videos or reading the articles about black women that have this and that and can't find a mate! Fact is many of ya'll have spent so much time building your careers that you never took the time to pay any attention to the guy that wanted to be in your lives early on. Also, in one of the videos one of the women mentioned they no longer wanted to be the "back pocket girl." Hmmmmm...but I guarantee these women keep a "buddy" around! Hypocrites! As a matter of fact, many women talk like they want something, but there actions say something totally different!

So with that being said...I'm going to say so what! As a successful black man I sit here and wishing I could pollinate each and everyone of you but I can't. I don't care if you are a Doctor, a Lawyer, or a Social worker! Doesn't matter to me because what myself and most successful black men are looking for is someone that has a drive, a passion, Personality, and their supreme talents. We want you to be our best friends.
NOTE: Not once did I mention what degree you got, car you drive, or where you live. I've always said Most women are Groupies and that's what they look for when they meet a guy. As a matter of fact, most women will only hover in circles where the men there will only fit certain financial qualities.

I'm not Married so I'm tired of sounding like a relationship specialist in these blogs(which I'm not!) so I will move on!

A New Year is upon us! And just like always, I sing the blues to the song of life! For thru the sorrows, the pains, and the Joys, I move on. With my head held high and my feet moving forward! I move! Through the many smiles and emotions, through the lies and deceit, I run! Another Road Not Taken I go! Where it stops...Hmph(you got it) No one knows! But I do know this! As long as blood beats through my veins and my brain is common enough to have sense! I will make it! I will continue to succeed! And to those that want join my journey I will act as YOUR disciple, but I shall not allow a kiss of death! Together we will Progress! Together we will Stand...And as We walk through the Valley of the shadow of death we FEAR NO EVIL, So that in the end WE will walk and take our place in the Light of Resurrection, AMEN

Just a quick poem I just wrote to leave with ya'll. Hope you like it! But you know how I feel if you don't! :)

Can't leave without my tag line so as always, Hype it if you like what I say, Hate on it if you don't...But always remember..."It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It."

Wishing each of you Love, Happiness, and Strength in your Journeys! Oh...almost forgot! I guess I have to do a rhyme for 2010...sooo...Lets Get it in for 2010!! hahahaha...enjoy Ya'll!

Blog 9: It's My World...Yall Just Live In It

Ok I'm starting off by letting ya'll know I have to be inspired to write. I had a blog that I wrote before this blog but I didn't think it was high quality so I decided to wait. So all of ya'll that always ask when am I writing my next blog and what will it be about...Hear ya go! Many times when I start writing, I have all these thoughts in my head about what to say and when I start my blog, the words sound nothing like my thoughts! Today is nothing different then the other blogs in relation to my previous sentence.

I will get into this blog quickly because I don't like for these to be over a certain length because folks don't like to read! However I am ALARMED y'all! ALARMED I tell ya! And here's why! Last week one of my friends posted an article from the Washington Post. I'll share with ya'll...
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/12/09/AR2009120904546_3.html?sid=ST2009120904680.

This article made me laugh hysterically! And when one of my friends posted it on Facebook I had to laugh at some of the comments! Furthermore, when the Male response was posted http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/how-helena-andrews-and-every-other-single-successful-and-lonely-black-woman-can-improve-her-luck/, there was silence on the WEB! LOL with a double "O"!! Just copy and paste the link to your browser if you haven't read the articles!

Now I'm about to discuss these articles, but don't expect me to drop game like Steve Harvey or have Transgressions over what I said like Tiger Woods!(Had to slide that in). OK. Hopefully by now you have read the articles(and video). If not...read them first! NOW let me say this...NOTHING WORTHWHILE IS EASY! And if "Bitch is the new Black," like Ms.Helena Andrews says...I'll gladly pass! As many black men have! So what I would like to do is share my views of "The Pursuit of Happiness(AKA Black Love)." I'm trying my best not to always have similar topics but ya'll be killin me! UGH! OK Here we go! The lady Helena Andrews in my eyes is really confused! Then when I read the comments made from her article I figured out there are a lot of confused people!

After reading Ms. Andrews Article and the comments folks posted I realized something. Some of ya'll just don't get it! All she talks about in this article is how she has this and has that yet there's no one there for her! Hmmm...lets dissect it. During the entire Article she wrambles on about is how she's educated, how she has a good job, or how she can afford to go out to this restaurant or buy stuff at whatever store! Basically she gives her "Resume'" for the entire article! So as a black man..Cough Cough...Successful black man that can do all those things and more...I say to you an astounding...WHO GIVES A FUCK! Her approach or thoughts to "dating" are like you going to a job interview and you puking to the person interviewing with everything that you can do! How about trying to have a personality and being fun to work with! That's the key! We already know what your accomplishments are otherwise you wouldn't be sitting in front of me! I'm tired of women feeling like they are entitled to shit just because they have whatever when all you have is a single spaced resume on some pretty paper!! Holla Bitch! Ok Ok Ya'll...i'ma stop right there on the article and let ya'll judge for yourself. What I want to do is without droppin game let some of ya'll know why men...Scratch that...People can be wishy washy in having a relationship or getting married. So not in any particular order...here's the list!

1. You'se a HO! Not like Santa Clause, but in the Tiger Woods transgressions sense of the word. Being a Ho is a love/hate relationship! I mean everyone can use a good handy Ho, but who wants to marry them?? But some do and some will!

2. I'm a HO! Hell...I just ain't ready to stop fucking everyone just yet or ever will. Nuff said!!

3. I'm to career focused! Hmmmm...this really hits home for a lot of professionals because our lives doesn't allow someone enough time to really have a steady relationship. As soon as we get to know someone we are off again to make that cheese. When the mice are away the dog/cats DO Play!~

4. You don't seem like you really down for me! Watch the Movie Avitar and you will see a 10 foot Pandorian lady that is truly down for her man! Vice Versa as well.

5. You are a FUKIN LAME! Can't take yo ass no where! You can't hang with my friends, you clam up at events. You are Boring. You talk like you have a learning disability. You are not versatile or balanced enough to hang in a professional event one night and then chill with the homies the next. You can't relate to anything I say or do. You are not really understanding to anything...but the sex is good so I stay...which brings me to the next bullet point.

6. YOU ARE TERRIBLE IN BED! No offense but Men fake it just as much as women...Nuff said!

7. YOU smashed the Homie/Homegirl! Some folks don't care but you have to realize. The guy or girl has probably told them all about how it went down...so carry on with your own discretion. It could be a minor detail to move past, but if you still be kickin it with that person you smashed...as the song say..Muthafuk me NO Mutha fuk YOOOUUUU!

8. You are to Moody. One day we cool and the next day I'm a F'in Azzhole! Too much to handle!

9. I hate your Damn Friends! This is touchy because this can be a tangled web! There's always a couple friends folks might not like but overall if your friends suck...OUCH...may be a tough road to drive.

10. Your Parents don't like Her/him. If my momma says youse a lame! It's over..by by! HOLLA BITCH!!

NEW ADDENDUM!! 11. You are terrible with your finances!

Hope to hear many comments from this blog but as you know by now, whether you hype it or hatin on what I have to say, It really doesn't matter. So in case you don't remember, "It's MY World...Ya'll Just Live In IT."

Happy Holidays to all of Ya'll!!

Blog 8: It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It

I'm Baaaaackkk! Ya'll Missed me didn't ya! Don't lie! All I gots to say is can a brother take a Vacation!! Geez! Anyways...Miss ya'll too! And this time I had to really think about what I was going to talk about! My blogs aren't exclusively writings about relationships or love but it seems like that's what Ya'll want to hear. Also, these are blogs ya'll not Novels which means I won't fully explore a topic, but I will give you just enough to think about and join in the discussion by commenting! It took me a minute to put together how this topic affected me and my actions in life. And with this topic and all my topics, by the time I start writing, there has been tons of similar conversations which gives me the base to right about it. So like Tiger Woods! I'm putting the pedal to the medal and sharing what I'm going to discuss today!(thought I was gonna say something nasty huh...Ya'll silly)

"Let Me Clear my Throat".....So without further adieu...today I'm going to talk about how Music has affected my life(as well as yours) and how we interact(Notice the song title in the Quotation marks).

Now before ya'll start chattering about how you waited this long for a blog and all I got to talk about is music...hear me out! Think about your life and how certain songs swayed the way you felt about a relationship or changed the mood of a party or even chose the drink you were drinking that night! For those of you that don't understand, let me go through the drinks that were decided by songs! I'm sure many of you at one time or another was "Rolling Down the Street Smoking endo, sippin on Gin and Juice," while the others were "Makin Luv in da Club" poppin bottles of Cristal. And while some of you turn your head at the last sentence, I guarantee Ya'll "Went down to the corner store, you know what I'm looking for...St.Ides!!"(in my best Nate Dogg voice). Oh and let's not forget downing bottles of that 8Ball..Ole E...Olde English(we all know that shit was nasty). Do I need to go on? Well how about drinking Alize or NUvo or those nasty ass Incredible Hulks? Ugh! So let me get to the meat of this blog and tell you how Music has affected my life and I'm certain as I discuss the topic, Ya'll may remember how music has affected yours!!

Now for Ya'll that don't know, I was born in August of 1975!(wild yeah I know...). That summer the billboard number one song(and still one of my favorites) was a song by Captain and Tennille called "Love will keep us Together." I can remember as a kid watching the hit TV show "Solid Gold" Rocking to this song! Actually I'm listening to it right now in my hotel room! Luvs it! This song in my eyes was the way I saw how relationships were supposed to work. I never knew anyone that got divorced growing up until I think my college years. Obviously that song would soon fade out as times changed and the songs changed!

For everyone that is within a certain age range, I'm sure you can probably remember grooving to Anita Baker on the Radio or Bobbing your head to Freddie Jackson, Keith Sweat, Luther Vandross or tuning in to Video Soul on BET to catch Rachel on Caribbean Rhythms! Then it all changed! Songs became not so innocent and Love was not described as a precious thing to hang on to! We entered the age of Raunchy R&B and Gangsta RAP! And so did I!

Now I'm from the country so although I enjoyed listening to folks in High School like the To Live Crew and "Heeeyyy we want some Pussay," I sure as hell wasn't getting any!! Remember I was still into "Popcorn Luv" Like New Edition! My mindset was to treat every woman as if I would treat my mom!(soon I realized every woman wasn't like my mother, nor to be treated like such)! Anyways, this was the 80's and early 90's! The time where thangs changed! These were the years where you had to "Push It" with Salt N' Pepa, "Do the Butt" with EU and you had to let everyone know that "I wanna Sex you Up" like Color me Bad! In other words, songs influence kids to do things they aren't ready for...hense the rise in teen pregnancies! So hold up for one sec! I know all of you are thinking to yourself and saying...Stacy...are you talking out of both sides of your mouth here? Nope...I gravitated to the other genre I talked about...Gangsta Rap! I used to sit and listen all night long to NWA! "Cuz the Boyz in da Hood are always hard, come talkin that trash we'll pull your card, knowin nothin in life but to be legit...don't quote me boy cuz I ain't said shit!" Man I loved that stuff! Still do! They were some crazy black brothas that just didn't give a fuck and that was me! I could relate...Hell we all got problems! Do I supposed to worry about yours issues more than mine...Hell naw! I was hurt when these guys broke up, they started putting out solo albums. I was pumpin the old Hardcore Ice Cube, and Bone Thugs N'Harmony(Easy E's group), and in Heavy Rotation was DR.DRE(The Chronic)! I can remember going to Howard University in DC for a Recruiting visit and everyone telling me about a guy named Sean Combs(they called him Puffy) that used to go to HU and a guy named Biggie Smalls he brought to Howard Homecoming! Biggie's music he taught the "10 crack commandments" and how you NEVER get high on your own supply! Hense I've never used Drugs! And if you didn't learn anything from that, he shared with you his "Dreams of fuckin and R&B Bitch." And all guys remember that one or had a similar thought.

By this time I had entered my college years and 93' was a classic year for songs! This was the year I learned how to Mix a strong drink of "Gin and Juice" like Snoop Dogg and why it just "Ain't no fun if my homies can't have none! And if that didn't get ya...I was rockin the remix of "Lodi Dodi" cuz I liked to Party! This was also the year of R Kelly and just like Biggie and the "10 Crack Commandments," R Kelly told you about "12 play"...and gave a tutorial of sex for the beginners! I mean how could a young brother not go crazy when you are in the party and "sex me" or "your body's callin" or "Bump N Grind" is playing?? And you know the "Summer Bunnies" were out! So believe me when I saw the Sun Dresses and all, oh yess...some of them "Reminded me of my Jeep"!! UGH...it was to much to resist! And If You didn't have your "Homie, Lover, Friend" you weren't doing to hot! However with all that tension going on...that same year there was an invasion of the WU TANG Clan!! These folks taught me about C.R.E.A.M. and for ya'll that don't know...CASH RULES EVERYTHING AROUND ME! CREAM gets the Money! DOLLA DOLLA BILLS YA'LL! Still Pumps in my head! This was the year that Outkast was tellin us about that "Southernplayalisticcadillacfunkymusic" and made us feel good about being from the south! NAS was "Illmatic"and eventually "Stillmatic" and we learned new dances called the "Humpty Hump" the "Butterfly" and you had to "Ride that train" because "Whoomp or Whoop there it is" whichever you choose kept the party HOT! So in other words, wheter you were "Just Kickin it" with Excape or you letting someone get "Too Close" with Next, be careful because you may feel their nature rise and it's a possibility you will fill a bump on you!

There are tons of songs that has influenced my life and I'm sure I can go on and on but these are only a few of the ones that have stayed in my mind back in the day for whatever reason! It also shows the change in mindset that we have based on the songs that are out! I feel bad for the kids nowadays because I'm sure more folks will be doing interesting things with their "Videofone" and everyone will have a particular interest in "Lollipops." And with that being said i'm sure every lil boy will think "They invented sex!" Yea right!

So folks don't think that these songs are the only ones that has shaped my life, but these are the ones that I could THINK of that details the change in human thinking and how music affects our young lives! I'm sure you have your own songs or verses in songs that shaped what you chose to do or how you did things in life! I mean I remember it being cool for chicks to "Creep" because of TLC and "T-Shirt and Panties on" were the outfits of choice! So in other words don't Judge me! Make a comment on what songs influenced you!

And as always...if you like what I say, Hype it! If you don't, Hate on it...It doesn't really matter, because "It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It!

Blog 7: It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It

Hey Yall!! As usual, I appreciate the feedback I've been getting from my previous blogs. Your insight and understanding of my writings drive me to find more stuff in my world to write about. Some of you have been commenting on my grammatical errors so I figure I'd address that issue. Just to let you all know, I try to use decent punctuation, but I'm not worried about the grammar. My sole purpose of my blogs are to write as if I'm speaking directly towards you in a laid back casual atmosphere. I realize it is hard for some of you overly analytical folks to understand, but who cares...It's my world! So Sit Back and enjoy! :D

At first I was planning on writing a Thank You Blog Highlighting all the folks that has "Hyped" me in my life or driven me to push harder because they were "Hatin" on my skills. However, After my last blog I've had many conversations on this next topic that could not be ignored any longer! So If I've had conversations with you on this topic, realize I'm not singling you out because you are not the only one that shared your views.

So without further adu(yes I know adieu. LOL)....Today's Blog topic is....MARRIAGE!

Now Let me start off first and say I am a firm Proponent of Marriage! After all I am the seed of a Marriage that has lasted 39 year this coming January 10th. My parents union has given me the benchmark for which my relationships exist today! However for all that is good, there is always a bad...the what if...the how bout if this happens! One thing about my parents is that from what I could tell, they never held much back! I mean I'm sure there was more to it then what I'm aware of but like the Poem "Mother to Son" by Langston Hughes...Life has been no crystal stair(I know because I'm the person that they talk to about their issues with one another)! But at the end of the day...after 39 years, they are still together.

So with that being said I wanted to talk about what I see in My World, and how I feel about marriage. I'll start by saying this...Just like College, Marriage isn't for everyone! Though I'm Not Married and have never been close to being married, I don't feel that everyone should be joined in a union. It's My Opinion so don't judge me! Many women out there are so engulfed with the thought of walking down that Isle that they fail to realize that the guy they are laying down with probably isn't trying to marry you, or they are just NOT the best person for you. But you want to be married sooo bad that you do anything and everything to get to that point.
Men! Some of ya'll stick with chicks because your girl is a stone cold freak and her "Becky" is out of this world! You look past the fact that she hits the club with her friends every weekend partying till 3-4am even though the club closes at 2. Now there's nothing wrong with hittin the club, but every weekend? Really? You are just a jump-off with a title huh?

The point I'm getting at on this topic of Marriage is that if marriage is what you are looking for, are you making yourself a desirable product?! And are you at the state in your life where you yourself are good Marriage Potential(Don't Lie)? Most of us aren't! What perception do folks have of you? What Perception do you have of yourself? Have you talked to your partner about the "What if's." What happens if we are Not together? What happens if we have kids? What happens if you cheat on me?...You get my drift! I'm a firm believer that in any type of relationship, it is just as important to talk about the bad as it is to talk about the good. The fact is there are no Guarantees in life and just like Hurricane Katrina...your life can be turned upside down at the blink of an eye! And there you sit lonely and heartbroken because you never thought it would happen to you!

I'll sum everything up by adding some stats for my analytical folks out there because as we have been well versed on, "Men Lie, Women Lie, but Numbers don't Lie!" Commitments and Confirmations before GOD are broken on a rapid pace! Have you discussed your requirements? My guess is Not!!

So as Usual, Hype it or Hate it...Really doesn't matter because it's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It.

Check out http://www.bgsu.edu/downloads/cas/file35757.pdf. This document breaks down divorce rates by race.

Age at marriage for those who divorce in America Age Women Men

Women Men
Under 20 years old 27.6% 11.7%
20 to 24 years old 36.6% 38.8%
25 to 29 years old 16.4% 22.3%
30 to 34 years old 8.5% 11.6%
35 to 39 years old 5.1% 6.5%


The divorce rate in America for first marriage, vs second or third marriage
50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri.”

According to enrichment journal on the divorce rate in America:
The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%
The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%
The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%


The divorce rate in America for childless couples and couples with children
According to discovery channel, couples with children have a slightly lower rate of divorce than childless couples.

Sociologists believe that childlessness is also a common cause of divorce. The absence of children leads to loneliness and weariness and even in the United States, at least 66 per cent of all divorced couples are childless.

Blog 6: It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It

Man! My plan was to slowly publish my blogs but there has been soo much on my mind that I had to publish a few to get them off my mind! It seems that my mind won't clear until I put it out for ya'll to view no matter if you actually read it or not!!
I am still amazed by some of Ya'll! I mean what kind of person did you think I was? I never assumed you didn't have complexities to your personality! We all know what Assume does and I think most of you look like Asses in my eyes...ok enough of that! Thanks to those that knew there was more behind the man! I appreciate it! Stereotypes of a Black Man Misunderstood I tell ya!

Life is an interesting event! I mean we all have our ups and downs, good and bad, right or wrong...It's constant struggle. That's why today I chose to talk about Happiness, Or the Pursuit There of!!

Happiness is something that in my eyes cannot be defined because it is different for different people and it can change daily, hourly, and for some of ya'll, by the minute. For me true Happiness is misunderstood!(Like everything else in my life from what I've seen since i've started writing this Blog). A lot of folks think money is what trully makes me happy in life! What I say to those people....YA'LL don't know SHIT! Money is a material thing and can never bring me happines...the freedom that money gives me brings me happiness though! So for all you folks out there working from 6am to 10pm trying to save the world pay attention and ask yourself are you happy?

This topic came to me this weekend and today actually as I was talking to my mom who was not in a happy state of mind. Now for ya'll that don't know, My Mother is numero Uno in my world and Just like in Steve Harvey's book, I would do anything to make her feel happy. In this instance, Listening was the best remedy! Basically it made her happy! Now we have all experienced this emotion whether it came from another person that brought it to us or we brought it to ourselves when we wake up and look in the mirror. Are you happy? I know I am!

So what makes me happy? Many things and a lot of simple pleasures actually. Happiness ranges from the previous stated Freedom to choose what I want to do in my life to conversation with interesting folks. I actually crave conversation because not only is it how I get information for my blogs, but it allows me to understand the dynamics of different people. Sort of like a reading a different book multiple times every day! Oh the Joy! People are interesting to me because each of us are raised differently, even if we were raised in the same household! Just different! Music makes me happy as well. It's the spoken word of the soul! Music puts you in the Happiess moods or sooths you when you are sad! It makes me happy. I believe that I too am a bluesman, not sanitized, not deodorized but funky! I have my own style and voice that express my quest for truth, Love, and the Pursuit of Happiness.

Many of us thought we were happy only to have it all taken away or suffocated(new word basically meaning dead, done, over, get over it). The fact is just how art imitates life...We fall down, but we get up! I say until you find happiness in your self, no one person can bring it to you! Filter those people Wisely! Just like the Ozone layer to the earth is there to filter out the garbage in the world, You may want to surround yourself with Positive folks to keep the Garbage out of your world!

I'll leave ya'll with a verse in a song that still gives me chills when I hear it. Happy Feelins! So from deep in my SOUL I Bid Ya'll Happy Feelings in the Air, Touching People Everywhere, Plenty of Love and everything...Listen to the People Sing!!"!! If someone makes you happy, tell them because this world we live in isn't guaranteed...NOTHING IS!! And if you are not happy with yourself...Seek it. I think I've been moving at a pace with only ME on my mind...and I don't want my life to be just about me anymore!

As always Hype what I said if you like it, Hate on it if you love it...but In the end remember..."It's My World...Ya'll Just Live in it!

Blog 5: It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It

Truth and Anger! This Topic is so profound to me that I had to place it in the First Sentence! These are 2 of the most transparent emotions in my life! Anyone that knows me knows that I can somewhat function on those two barberic rules! However, before you jump to conclusion on what you feel the meaning of those two words mean, let me explain why they should be equally important to you!

I'll Start by Disecting the Truth, then Anger and then tie them together! OK...the "Truth"!! Now we all know that It will Set you FREE, so why is it that folks want to keep us shackled like a slave? And for all those out there, Ommission, is a LIE as well! If you know withholding information would possibly affect your relationship whether business or personal with someone...YOU ARE NOT TELLING THE TRUTH! I realize that the truth at times can be a struggle to get out, but in the end It will benefit both you and whomever you are dealing with. In Sales we have a saying..."Buyers are Liars and people are too." What does that really mean? It means that many people think sales people are lying all the time when the fact is the customer I am pretty certain aren't telling the whole truth as well! Some Call it Negotiations! We want what we want that is best for us in Our World! In essence, we are all LIARS...or to take it to the Bible...We are all Sinners in the eyes of the Lord! I'm sure I've ruffled some feathers with those comments but prove that I'm wrong...I'll Listen.

NOW...Lets talk about ANGER!! I must admit that Anger is an emotion that at times has given me the drive and determination to do anything. Hell, I bought my House in 17 days off of anger, I started playing football off of anger, and to be honest anger causes action both good and bad!! So lets Disect it just a bit! I don't think it's neccessary for me to go into a definition of the word because Anger looks different in everyone! In some, this word is just a flash of rage that soon passes, in others It can cause them to a complete Rage where that Anger Fuels to HATE...which is never a good thing! As I'm writing I had just finished watching the Today Show. They discussed a guy whose wife staged her own kidnapping and arranged to have her husband Murdered for money. I'd say the Husband has every right to be ANGRY!! She failed to Notify him(Omission). Get it. As I was watching this travesty unfold, I also saw a movie trailer for a movie called "Brothers." It's the movie where the Soldier goes off to war and they thought he's dead, but He's not! Then he comes home only to find out that his wife is Sleeping with his Brother! EW!! Now You can't say much about her moving on when she thought he was dead, but uuughhmmm...HIS BROTHER!!...EW...I think he has a right to be mad! And it looks like eventually his Rage Turned into HATE! I may Check the DVD out though!

OK Lets Tie it all together! THE TRUTH SHALL SET YOU FREE! Many times if someone had told the truth from the start it would not of caused any hard feelings or Anger! Well at least very short term anger! Lying to someones face or withholding information just causes animosity towards that person! As much as it hurts or may hurt, the Truth is what we look for in Personal and Business Relationships! Without it we are lost trying to disect why this person acts this way or did this or wondering the astounding WHY as you sit in dismay!

So with that being said...be open, be honest...and Most of all TELL THE TRUTH...Set someone FREE TODAY!

Oh and I almost forgot....If you like what I'm saying, Hype it! If you don't...Hate it! Doesn't really matter though because "It's My World....Ya'll Just Live In It.

Blog 4: It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It

HAAAAA...so I hope by now all of you have sobered up and made it back to your professional mental states after another Great Homecoming season! I know I had a blast and I'm sure I'll be back at it next year! So over the last few weeks of my writing I've gotten an astounding response to what I've been doing. I am trying to find a good blog website to transfer my thoughts on so if anyone knows of a good site let me know!

I have also gotten many folks tell me they had no Idea that I wrote or even had feelings!!(Bastards...but that's what friends are for right)!! Well to let folks know a little about myself, I used to write poetry as a kid and also used to recite poetry in Various competitions! Ahhhh, I remember myself as a 10 year old lad standing in front of a packed Auditorium reciting "The Road Not Taken," by Robert Frost! I chose that poem for it's Meaning! Who knew it would have so much meaning for my entire life from then forward...Hear...I'll share with you!


TWO roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;

Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,

And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.

This Poem has shaped my life from the moment I read it and as I stood before a crowd of my peers and took Second Place....I knew that Second would never be good enough! Everyone in my class thought I should of won but that was only the begining.
THis blog today is different from my usual writings as I am allowing entry into my brain! So basically I'm sitting myself down in front of you and poping the top off for you to peak inside! For the past couple weeks I've had inner turmoil that has caused me to experience a Metamorphosis...Or Maybe a REBIRTH!! Yeah I like that a REBIRTH of COOL if you will!

This Realization came forth as I was sitting through a speech with the Dr.Cornel West at NC State University. That night my life I feel changed. My creative expressions and thoughts raced in my head like Bees in the Chinese Bee Tourture!(It's when you were tortured by having killer bees poured over your head that was enclosed in a contraption...yeah I know sounds like a scene out of a Saw Movie). Either way these blogs represent each Bee plucked out of my head attempting to release myself from the struggles! Because as Dr.West said, I too am a bluesman and through struggle we grow in life.

So true to form I end this Blog with a Question. What struggles in life have you overcome? What different road or path did you take that made all the difference. I'd like to know!

And Last but not least, If Hype it or hate it, It really doesn't matter because "It's My World....Ya'll Just Live In It."

Blog 3: It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It

WOOOOW is all I can say! Ya'll really showed me Love with the last Blog(No Pun Intended). NOW I don't know if I'll be able to get as much interest in future topics as I did with the love blog, but Hey...Remember "It's My World" right!! What I will promise you is that I will strive to be insightfully witty and top it off with a sense of humor! A lot of you have been emailing me or telling me I should talk about this topic or that topic and I appreciate it! However, you have to realize that I write on MY experiences of Past, Present, and Future. With that being said, If anyone brings up a topic and I have experienced it or may in the future...Let me know and I may allow it into "MY WORLD." Now I must fess up and admit that I am writing this blog topic a week earlier than when I plan on publishing it because the thoughts were racing in my mind so much that I had to start writing!

So with out further adu...the blog topic for this week is H-O-M-E-C-O-M-I-N-G! It's HOMECOMING YA'LL!! Or Was Rather!

This is the Time of year where EVERYONE lets loose! Even if you didn't go to College, you are at someone's "Official" Homecoming party, or stepshow, or just chillin on
You see Homecoming time is where reality resembles ART!! I'll tell you how! Homecoming is where you may use Music titles as your motivation like Pretty Ricky's "We Gon Get Tipsy," or maybe you are a professional like Gucci and your motto is "Wasted,"(One of my Favorites!)...Party Party Party lets all get WAYSTED!! HAAA! Homecoming Ya'll...aaahhhh Yes...It's Homecoming! This is the time where the most popular person in your school is a chick named BECKY! A few of ya'll get my reference!Those of you that don't...ask the ones that do! HAA...It's Homecoming Ya'll. H-O-M-E-C-O-M-I-N-G!!
So hear we have it everyone! Homecoming! What do you guys love about Homecoming? I know I used to hit everyone's homecoming each year! If there was a hype party, I was paying my money to go or finding the Hook up to be there! I mean really, we are all related somehow! I would crash a Homecoming like Tupac and Ms.Jackson crashed that cookout in Poetic Justice!! HOMECOMING It's Homecoming Ya'll!

Ok Folks this is where I end my blog, so if you would, share some of your favorite Homecoming memories, or let me know why you Love Homecoming!

And as always, If you Hype what I'm saying...let me know...If you Hatin on what I'm saying...Let me know. Either way it doesn't really matter because "It's My World....Ya'll Just Live In It!

NOW GO ON AND GET WAYSTED!!

Blog 2: It's My World....Ya'll Just Live In It

Hey Ya'll!! Wanted to first Thank those who Hyped or Hated on my last entry! The feedback that I received was much appreciated. I Started writing to release some of the inner thoughts in my head and like I said before, it seemed as if folks really liked some of the funny comments, sayings, and quotes. No matter what you thought or felt, it seemed as if I could stir up a good fb convo to get your day going! After my last blog I took the time to listen to what folks were saying! Many folks were saying, Stacy, if you are going to blog it needs to be more juicy or have something to hook folks! I took some time to think about that comment and came up to the conclusion that yeah maybe but in the end, It's My World...Ya"ll Just Live In IT!! LOL...But no seriously...I did listen, but I can only talk about what's going on or has been experienced in MY WORLD....Hense the name of the blog!! So with that being said I took this week thinking about my experiences in the Past, Present, and Future and came up with my topic. I really struggled with this one because I am sick and tired of everyone talking about it without really knowing what it is! Hell I don't even like to say words that sounds close to the word. Oh well....*Sigh*...Without futher Adu....the topic of this blog will be...Mutha&^%#, $h!$,...LOVE.

OK I said it LOVE! That's my topic for everyone that has been asking what will be the topic!

Now we all know that I can't sit here and disect every aspect of any topic I bring up, and expecially not this weeks topic(hard to say it), but that's why It's a blog, so you get the chance to throw in your two cents or whatever your viewpoint is worth! (My world remember) In case you forgot! LOL

Gulp...Love! The first thing I wanted to do is get the definition of love! So what I did was Look at the Wikipedia definitions.You can look up what it means in other countries too! According to Wikipedia, Love is defined as: any of a number of emotions and experiences related to a sense of strong affection[1] and attachment.
Corinthians 13 Says:
4Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

8Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away. 9For we know in part and we prophesy in part, 10but when perfection comes, the imperfect disappears. 11When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me. 12Now we see but a poor reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

13And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Now what does all this mean? Depends on the person actually but I don't think I could trully go into this topic without having a background on it that doesn't come from me personally! Ya'll be judging and stuff!
In my eyes Love is a realy touchy subject because Love in the Interpersonal sense is very difficult! I mean lets look at the possible scenarios here! You can love someone and they not love you back! You can Love someone and they fall out of love with you! You can love someone and Fall out of love with them Or you can Love someone them love you back, but do something stupid to cause them to hate you! I think you guys get what I'm saying and yes there are tons of possible combinations to choose from...Kinda like "Having it your way" at Burger King! We all know there's a fine line between Love and Hate Right!!

Love for me has always been a struggle...I mean why love someone when eventually it will end or disappoint you? Hell Folks Die, Leave you, cheat on you, stab you in the back. It's a Hope that we all need in our life. An emotion, a Desire. At the end of the day we all NEED to be Loved by someone! So what is it in my world? Love is different for different people, Just like I have friends in my life that serve different purposes. I mean I love my parents but I don't want to give them the business(which means be intimate). Hell I don't even want to think about how I arrived on this earth for that matter...ew...Anyways, I think you get my point! So lets dive in to what I'm saying. Love for me takes time, sometimes a lot of time! I don't allow folks into my life to often because my Heart is similar to a Gang, in which, you get "Jumped IN", but you are there forever. There's no Leaving the gang no matter what I say or said to you! You can see how this can become an issue! (Not enough space for everyone, so I cut folks off a lot). Love is Loyalty, Respect, and Truth! And Just like a Gang, if you break those rules you break the Gang! Whether I love you as a Friend or more I give those three things to you and if I falter on one of those Three things I probably didn't really love you! Yes we all have make mistakes, but think about it! When you did a friend wrong or cheated on your significant other did you really "LOVE" them? Maybe, but not when you were making that choice to do what you did!

Either way, Love is a phrase that has tons of different meanings if you ask different people. To some its a feeling of worth, to others it's security, and to some it's a dependency! Love can be the best of things, but it also can dwarf into it's evil sister...HATE!!

So for those that read this Blog, Please comment on your thoughts about Love? A How does it make you feel.

Like always, Hype it if you like it, Hate on it if you don't....But at the end of the day...It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It. But if I haven't said It before, Those that I have allowed entry into my life for whatever reason or Capacity. I Love You.

Blog 1: It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It!

So I'm sure when you seen the title of this note it got a few panties and underwear in a bunch! Well stop!! This phrase is something that I have said since I was a small kid after watching Scarface. I think most of you know the phrase "The world is mine." Well this is my rendition and also the begining of my Blog on Facebook!
Now I'm sure you are asking, Stacy, what will this blog consist of! Well Shut up for a moment and I'm about to tell you! In this blog I will discuss basically my world as I see it! Some of you may be able to relate to what I'm saying, and some of you will have no clue! Doesn't matter...It's my world remember! LOL. I wanted to start this because folks were always coming up to me saying how they like to read my comments or how they laugh at some of the stuff I post. This Blog will act as a creative tool to express my thoughts, feelings, desires and emotions on various things in my life! If you like it let me know or if you Hatin on it let me know...doesn't matter either way because HEY.....It's my World....you just live in it! So without Further adu...My first topic of my Blog!!....THE AIRPORT~~~

Some of you out there probably know that I frequent the airport quite a bit! It's kind of a neccessary evil that you have to go through these days to get from Point "A" to destination "B" the fastest. I will try my best to journal the trip to the airport in so many words.

First of all I try my damndest not to have a flight before 8:00am. Those early morning flights mess your sleep all up! And GOD knows it's hard for me to cram my Big Ass in those tiny seats! Kinda like sticking your.....ok ok i'll keep it clean!~ Anyways, the first leg of "The Airport" is getting there! I usually try to arrive no latter than an hour or 45 minutes before my flight! But what does it take to get there!
The funny thing about traveling is that you can never really pack enough! It could be a day trip and folks will pack enough for a WEEK. I know I know, I'm guilty as well. We try to pack the day before(night rather) thinking we are going to be ahead of the curve, only to be throwing more stuff in our bags or switching out outfits in anticipation af a great party! So after we cram everything in our bags we are off to "The Airport."
Usually it takes me no longer than 10 minutes from my crib to get there since I live so close but I take the shuttle instead of riding around looking for parking in the deck, and it's less expensive. Now the Shuttle is a beast of it's own because it's like Forest Gumps moma once said..."you never know what you gonna get." A lot of times when I'm on the shuttle you see various types of people...hey you may even see some folks you know! However, usually there are a few classes of people. You get the Business Traveler! They are usualy to caught up in their BlackBerries to even look you in the eye or even speak. You sometimes get the Vacationer!! These folks can't shut up! They tell you why they are on Vacation, who they are going on vacation with, and even show you pics of their kids they left at home to go on Vacation! And last but not least you get the Casual Traveler. These guys are pretty cool. They are usually in a rush but you feel sorry for them because they probably forgot their Keys in the car, or phone or something because they are in a rush! They also just need a little direction in the security lines which gives me my next segway!

SECURITY!! We all want it...But we also dread it! There is nothing worse than getting to the airport only to see the security line wrapped around the building!~! At this point, the Decision time begins! Do I choose the "casual traveler" line or do I go for the "Business Traveler" line...I mean after all I am a Business man right! Hmmmm...I take a little more thought to it! Now it doesn't take a rocket scientist to go for the shorter line, but if the lines are equal I look for a few things...Kids, the Elderly(Grandma and Grandpa), and folks that look like they are from my home town(The Country) are KEYS for me to stay out their line! They Take FOREVER! As for the business class line, I usually try to look at the bags they are carrying. If It looks like there's a technical convention going on! I will gladly pass and be the "casual traveler."
The next part of security is after you have waited in line for who knows how long is finally getting to the TSA counter for them to check your ID. These folks have no personality and they look at you as if you are the next person to try and destroy America! HEY..I'm Black...we don't do that stuff! LOL... If you are smart you shoot them a big smile give them the ID and Ticket that they need and keep it moving to the dreaded Security scan! Here is where you can really loose it! The smell of feet and the clanging and beeping of the machines...Oh and don't for get the guy yelling "Please pull out your laptops and place it in the bins! Please throw your water away because it will not be permited pass security." Usually at this time you will see folks Chugging water as if they were at a College Frat house or others thinking they are slick and try to look for hidden pockets in their coats to get it past security. You can tell a lot about folks when they are in the security lines! So here it is, now it's your time to grab a bin! You try to grab at least 3 because you know your shoes, liquids of 3oz(that dime bag you had to carry), Laptop, coats, belts, wallet, keys, phone....and whatever else you may cary has to go through the screening. You get to the screener and send everything through only to get a loud "BEEP....BAG CHECK!! You look over and be like WTF...that's my bag! Shi....!! Mutha....!! Comes to find out you put your shoes in the bins when they changed the Rules! Ugh could you of told me...Now I have to sit in the chair why some strange lady rubs her hands up and down my spine with a magic wand!(Too bad she's not even close to being Cute!) So after you've been slightly violated you have to scramble and grab all the stuff you put into the screener and Hope no one takes one of your bags or coats by mistake. Hell I just want folks to get out of my way so i can get dressed! But hey, the good knews is that you are home free! You just hope your Checked bags make it to it's proper destination, but there is not time for thinking about that. You are in a rush, only to look at the Departures and see that your flight has been Delayed! Well I'll Be Damn!! oh well....that's "THE AIRPORT"!!