I admit it...I AM NOT THE MAN I USED TO BE!
I am soooo tired of seeing the videos or reading the articles about black women that have this and that and can't find a mate! Fact is many of ya'll have spent so much time building your careers that you never took the time to pay any attention to the guy that wanted to be in your lives early on. Also, in one of the videos one of the women mentioned they no longer wanted to be the "back pocket girl." Hmmmmm...but I guarantee these women keep a "buddy" around! Hypocrites! As a matter of fact, many women talk like they want something, but there actions say something totally different!
So with that being said...I'm going to say so what! As a successful black man I sit here and wishing I could pollinate each and everyone of you but I can't. I don't care if you are a Doctor, a Lawyer, or a Social worker! Doesn't matter to me because what myself and most successful black men are looking for is someone that has a drive, a passion, Personality, and their supreme talents. We want you to be our best friends.
NOTE: Not once did I mention what degree you got, car you drive, or where you live. I've always said Most women are Groupies and that's what they look for when they meet a guy. As a matter of fact, most women will only hover in circles where the men there will only fit certain financial qualities.
I'm not Married so I'm tired of sounding like a relationship specialist in these blogs(which I'm not!) so I will move on!
A New Year is upon us! And just like always, I sing the blues to the song of life! For thru the sorrows, the pains, and the Joys, I move on. With my head held high and my feet moving forward! I move! Through the many smiles and emotions, through the lies and deceit, I run! Another Road Not Taken I go! Where it stops...Hmph(you got it) No one knows! But I do know this! As long as blood beats through my veins and my brain is common enough to have sense! I will make it! I will continue to succeed! And to those that want join my journey I will act as YOUR disciple, but I shall not allow a kiss of death! Together we will Progress! Together we will Stand...And as We walk through the Valley of the shadow of death we FEAR NO EVIL, So that in the end WE will walk and take our place in the Light of Resurrection, AMEN
Just a quick poem I just wrote to leave with ya'll. Hope you like it! But you know how I feel if you don't! :)
Can't leave without my tag line so as always, Hype it if you like what I say, Hate on it if you don't...But always remember..."It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It."
Wishing each of you Love, Happiness, and Strength in your Journeys! Oh...almost forgot! I guess I have to do a rhyme for 2010...sooo...Lets Get it in for 2010!! hahahaha...enjoy Ya'll!
i totally disagree and this just sounds like the same argument every man makes about not caring what we do. you say that you're looking for "drive, a passion, Personality, and their supreme talents" but when you find it, you don't know what to do with it. there are exceptions to the rule, meaning there are guys who appreciate women with such qualities, but from your cliche' analysis/argument, i'm thinking that you are not one of them...could be wrong.
ReplyDeleteThe first post says it all. Totally agree. You write with anger as a black man and not looking from both perspectives. There is no objectivity in your post. You have no idea of what black women go through in their journey to find a mate. I know "it's your world," but really you should put a little more thought into your statements. It is so old and repetitive.
ReplyDeleteEnough with the resume. Men do the same thing. As a successful black man, I doubt that you are going to get in a serious relationship with a stripper or a cashier from a fast food restauraunt or someone you don't feel is at your level. Those women were just being honest enought to say what we (men and women) feel and want.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree with each of these 3 postings. First off...many folks aren't ready nor want to be in a relationship! And sometimes no matter what you have...the timing just ain't right!
ReplyDeleteNo woman or man can trully look at things from both sides...you can only try. Furthermore, no I don't care of the struggle you go through to find a mate because we black men have our own struggles.
I can appreciate a woman saying what they feel and want, however nothing is perfect...we all have to compromise.
Sounds like you have a lot of anger inside. You need some healing. Sounds like you have issues with women. Maybe you need a hug.
ReplyDeleteI'll accept your hug, but can you grab my ears when you hug me?? I really like that!
ReplyDeleteNo more angry then the folks that are on tv discussing their issues with black men...I too am just stating the obvious...if you don't believe me read the male responses on my Facebook page or just ask another man!
Well, I don't know how I feel about most women being "groupies", but what I can say is that all women are innately programmed to seek protection and security. So it only makes sense that women are going to be attracted to the men that can provide that for them. I was watching a special on mating some time ago, and this proves true even down to who a woman chooses to have sex with. If by some chance a woman gets pregnant by a man that is not her husband, she wants to be sure that the man will be able to provide for her and the child and not just leave them out in the cold. It's biological and it's logical. I don't agree with the gold digger mentality and I'm also not against dating a blue collar brother (money is money as long as he can provide) or a brother with cornrows (they have to be neat...lol), BUT I will not lower my standards and date a man that is not financially stable and successful in life.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand, men are biologically designed to be the protector and provide security for his mate. So if a woman is always throwing her accomplishments and her money in his face then it lessens the importance of him needing to take care of her. Just by listening to different men, I've learned that many men want to be needed. Don't get me wrong, I'm very pro-education and I'm all for women making their own way and not having to rely on a man to take care of her, BUT when you want a relationship, I'm thinking there's a better way to approach the situation rather than throwing the money and the status all in your man's face.
I don't think Stacy is angry, and even though I don't want to hear some of the "knowledge" he's dropping, it's what the men are thinking. We (women) can't change that, just like the men can't change what we're thinking. Somehow, we need to get to a point where we understand each other and compromise. That means accepting that men can be insensitive to our feelings at times just because they aren't sensitive creatures (which annoys the hell outta me). On the other hand, men should be willing to try to understand women as well (even if you don't agree with everything)If I cry, don't walk out and wait for me to get it together. Attempt to understand and let me cry on your shoulder for example. If you're not ready and willing to do that then I don't think you're ready to enter into a relationship anyway. Personally, I don't have the energy for all that right now...lol. All of this is just my opinion though :-) I hope everyone's new year is off to a great start!
I also think that if there's something that we as women don't like about what the men are thinking then we need to prove them wrong. The reason why some of us can't keep a man is because we keep proving them right. (and the same goes for men! We could write a blog all day about men and what we don't like about them, what they're doing wrong etc, etc. and sometimes I really want to, but it's Stacy's blog, so I'm going to leave it at that).
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