We were....We have been....Nah...#WEARELAWRENCE

We were....We have been....Nah....#WEARELAWRENCE


Most of yall will read the headline of this post and be completely turned off.  Shrugs...it'll be ok "sweetie."  I see it no different than someone reading m FB comments and form an opinion about me.  The fact is I get most of my material from, well, "Y'all,"  So if you are mad at anyone, get mad at yourself or society.  Y'all are my ghost writers as most of the things I post are from others mouths.

I'm actually going to take a little more time thinking through this blog because so many different angles and scenarios came to mind before I even started writing.  How do I explain what I'm talking about?  How do I get my point across?  How?  IDK but I'll try.

The fact is at some point in our lives, every guy has been a Lawrence at some point.  You don't have to believe me.  Just ask other guys.  So how did we get here?

For all the people that have no idea who Lawrence is or have no clue what I'm talking about.  Just close the blog...actually keep reading as you may pick up on a few things.  Enough small talk, let's get to the point.  In the show Insecure, Lawrence is the fictional character, that is in a long-term relationship but is currently down on his luck.  You know the drill, trying to figure out life like many of regardless of gender experiences at some point or another.  During this time, his relationship is severely strained because his Galpal and live in Ass is fed up with his lack of motivation and more than likely temporary depression.  Point blank he's in a funk.  Little to his knowledge, his GF is lusting for another guy as she is sick and tired of her man being sick and tired.  Ok, pause here. If you have ever been any relationship in which you or the other person didn't need to lean on the other for support please let me know.  Otherwise, why be in a relationship?  We can all do bad by ourselves.  Now, long story short, the GF is lusting for a guy as her man is down and out, opens up Pandora's box and kisses him and eventually has sex with dude after she recommitted her willingness to be "in this" with her current "crush."(notice I did not say, love.  You fall in and out of love with people, IMO)

Relationships are enjoyable, but they do take a little work and understanding.  If you've seen the show as I assume most have, you know the rest.  My point of writing this blog is understanding how most men were....have been....Nah...#wearelawrence.  The suspense is over so here I go.  Women and men are set up way different mentally, physically, and simple societal norms are different.  There are very few men that I know of that grew up being able to express their emotions about something that hurt them.  You just "deal with it."  No matter if it's losing a loved one or not growing up with a parent, and damn sure not relationship hurt.  In the instance that we did, it was normally met with "suck it up," or "Fuck that bitch," or "pray on it."  So, for the most part, you end up dealing with it however you can.  In the case of Lawrence (i.e.most men), he assumed that he could work through any issues with his partner and everything would be good.  After all, they were committed, right?  Right!  So let me explain something to you.  When a man chooses to be in a relationship with a woman, normally he's looking at this lady differently than any other woman he's dealt with in the past.  You are his friend, you are the person that he sees himself in, he may see you as the mother of his kids...He's your protector.  So be careful with your words ladies because once that vision of you in his mind is broken....You're just another ain't shit b*&CH that he can take or leave.  I'll give an example.  Most of yall watch Game of  Thrones.  Imagine if you will, a knight standing in all his armor standing in attention when his woman walks up to him and he immediately takes off his frontal chest plate, exposing his heart, his emotions and everything for your taking.  You two passionately embrace and during this time you pull out your knife and slowly insert it into his stomach.  In disbelief, his eyes stare down at yours as he's thinking, "NO, not you, not the one I loved and opened my heart to."  You smile as he crumbles to his knees, he grabs your ankles as you stand to just watch your work. Do you feel a slight sadness? Maybe? But you knew what you were doing from the start.  At this point, he is too weak to hold onto you, so you walk away never expecting to be troubled again. At this time you quote every bible scripture and Iyanla Vanzant quote out there on how what you did was just, but you forgot to make sure he was dead.  He wasn't.  You lost the thing that assisted you in your time of need, the equally flawed individual that during your unknowingly to him "Hoe phase, " stood beside you until you realized he would always care for you and help you.

He's Alive....and conquest is his goal.  Why you ask?  Society tells you that "there's more where that one came from," "there's plenty of fish in the sea, " "fuck that b*itch."  And they are all right.  They are absolutely correct, but no one tells you to chill out for a minute the same as no one tells the woman not to jump from one relationship to the next.  Lawrence finds out his flower, his pearl, his cherished lady betrayed him.  His pain looks at him in the mirror each day. They say hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, well HELL was built on the emotions of slanging angry reckless Ping and its consequences.  We all know the phrase "hurt people, hurt people."  More than likely she's not that into the person she's with and he's out here reckless as hell.  It's not always the case, but many times yes.

Poor Lawrence!  Poor ex GF! Poor Everyone!  Is he a good guy?  Nope, but is his GF a good woman?  Hell Is anyone good?  We are all quite flawed.  Everyone!  He seeks shelter from someone that gave him pep talks when he was down.  The "support" that he was sure his now ex-was giving him.  It was a great plan until he realized he couldn't deal with her more than physical.  He was spending too much time, she was wanting more and he still hadn't dealt with his emotions from his now ex-gf stabbing him.  He was caught off guard.  When you are down you aren't always aware of your ways.  You just know or assume that the person you chose will be in your corner will be there or at least let you know why they can no longer be there.  They lived together for years.  You learn quite a bit about people, but NEVER enough.  My advice?  Get over it Bruh, Man F'k that trick, You pray on it folk?  I mean it's pretty good advice, right?  Right?  Am I Right?.   We can do bad by ourselves, right?  I know I can....I can do a lot of bad!