Blog 10: It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It

I admit it...I AM NOT THE MAN I USED TO BE!

I am soooo tired of seeing the videos or reading the articles about black women that have this and that and can't find a mate! Fact is many of ya'll have spent so much time building your careers that you never took the time to pay any attention to the guy that wanted to be in your lives early on. Also, in one of the videos one of the women mentioned they no longer wanted to be the "back pocket girl." Hmmmmm...but I guarantee these women keep a "buddy" around! Hypocrites! As a matter of fact, many women talk like they want something, but there actions say something totally different!

So with that being said...I'm going to say so what! As a successful black man I sit here and wishing I could pollinate each and everyone of you but I can't. I don't care if you are a Doctor, a Lawyer, or a Social worker! Doesn't matter to me because what myself and most successful black men are looking for is someone that has a drive, a passion, Personality, and their supreme talents. We want you to be our best friends.
NOTE: Not once did I mention what degree you got, car you drive, or where you live. I've always said Most women are Groupies and that's what they look for when they meet a guy. As a matter of fact, most women will only hover in circles where the men there will only fit certain financial qualities.

I'm not Married so I'm tired of sounding like a relationship specialist in these blogs(which I'm not!) so I will move on!

A New Year is upon us! And just like always, I sing the blues to the song of life! For thru the sorrows, the pains, and the Joys, I move on. With my head held high and my feet moving forward! I move! Through the many smiles and emotions, through the lies and deceit, I run! Another Road Not Taken I go! Where it stops...Hmph(you got it) No one knows! But I do know this! As long as blood beats through my veins and my brain is common enough to have sense! I will make it! I will continue to succeed! And to those that want join my journey I will act as YOUR disciple, but I shall not allow a kiss of death! Together we will Progress! Together we will Stand...And as We walk through the Valley of the shadow of death we FEAR NO EVIL, So that in the end WE will walk and take our place in the Light of Resurrection, AMEN

Just a quick poem I just wrote to leave with ya'll. Hope you like it! But you know how I feel if you don't! :)

Can't leave without my tag line so as always, Hype it if you like what I say, Hate on it if you don't...But always remember..."It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It."

Wishing each of you Love, Happiness, and Strength in your Journeys! Oh...almost forgot! I guess I have to do a rhyme for 2010...sooo...Lets Get it in for 2010!! hahahaha...enjoy Ya'll!

Blog 9: It's My World...Yall Just Live In It

Ok I'm starting off by letting ya'll know I have to be inspired to write. I had a blog that I wrote before this blog but I didn't think it was high quality so I decided to wait. So all of ya'll that always ask when am I writing my next blog and what will it be about...Hear ya go! Many times when I start writing, I have all these thoughts in my head about what to say and when I start my blog, the words sound nothing like my thoughts! Today is nothing different then the other blogs in relation to my previous sentence.

I will get into this blog quickly because I don't like for these to be over a certain length because folks don't like to read! However I am ALARMED y'all! ALARMED I tell ya! And here's why! Last week one of my friends posted an article from the Washington Post. I'll share with ya'll...
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/12/09/AR2009120904546_3.html?sid=ST2009120904680.

This article made me laugh hysterically! And when one of my friends posted it on Facebook I had to laugh at some of the comments! Furthermore, when the Male response was posted http://www.verysmartbrothas.com/how-helena-andrews-and-every-other-single-successful-and-lonely-black-woman-can-improve-her-luck/, there was silence on the WEB! LOL with a double "O"!! Just copy and paste the link to your browser if you haven't read the articles!

Now I'm about to discuss these articles, but don't expect me to drop game like Steve Harvey or have Transgressions over what I said like Tiger Woods!(Had to slide that in). OK. Hopefully by now you have read the articles(and video). If not...read them first! NOW let me say this...NOTHING WORTHWHILE IS EASY! And if "Bitch is the new Black," like Ms.Helena Andrews says...I'll gladly pass! As many black men have! So what I would like to do is share my views of "The Pursuit of Happiness(AKA Black Love)." I'm trying my best not to always have similar topics but ya'll be killin me! UGH! OK Here we go! The lady Helena Andrews in my eyes is really confused! Then when I read the comments made from her article I figured out there are a lot of confused people!

After reading Ms. Andrews Article and the comments folks posted I realized something. Some of ya'll just don't get it! All she talks about in this article is how she has this and has that yet there's no one there for her! Hmmm...lets dissect it. During the entire Article she wrambles on about is how she's educated, how she has a good job, or how she can afford to go out to this restaurant or buy stuff at whatever store! Basically she gives her "Resume'" for the entire article! So as a black man..Cough Cough...Successful black man that can do all those things and more...I say to you an astounding...WHO GIVES A FUCK! Her approach or thoughts to "dating" are like you going to a job interview and you puking to the person interviewing with everything that you can do! How about trying to have a personality and being fun to work with! That's the key! We already know what your accomplishments are otherwise you wouldn't be sitting in front of me! I'm tired of women feeling like they are entitled to shit just because they have whatever when all you have is a single spaced resume on some pretty paper!! Holla Bitch! Ok Ok Ya'll...i'ma stop right there on the article and let ya'll judge for yourself. What I want to do is without droppin game let some of ya'll know why men...Scratch that...People can be wishy washy in having a relationship or getting married. So not in any particular order...here's the list!

1. You'se a HO! Not like Santa Clause, but in the Tiger Woods transgressions sense of the word. Being a Ho is a love/hate relationship! I mean everyone can use a good handy Ho, but who wants to marry them?? But some do and some will!

2. I'm a HO! Hell...I just ain't ready to stop fucking everyone just yet or ever will. Nuff said!!

3. I'm to career focused! Hmmmm...this really hits home for a lot of professionals because our lives doesn't allow someone enough time to really have a steady relationship. As soon as we get to know someone we are off again to make that cheese. When the mice are away the dog/cats DO Play!~

4. You don't seem like you really down for me! Watch the Movie Avitar and you will see a 10 foot Pandorian lady that is truly down for her man! Vice Versa as well.

5. You are a FUKIN LAME! Can't take yo ass no where! You can't hang with my friends, you clam up at events. You are Boring. You talk like you have a learning disability. You are not versatile or balanced enough to hang in a professional event one night and then chill with the homies the next. You can't relate to anything I say or do. You are not really understanding to anything...but the sex is good so I stay...which brings me to the next bullet point.

6. YOU ARE TERRIBLE IN BED! No offense but Men fake it just as much as women...Nuff said!

7. YOU smashed the Homie/Homegirl! Some folks don't care but you have to realize. The guy or girl has probably told them all about how it went down...so carry on with your own discretion. It could be a minor detail to move past, but if you still be kickin it with that person you smashed...as the song say..Muthafuk me NO Mutha fuk YOOOUUUU!

8. You are to Moody. One day we cool and the next day I'm a F'in Azzhole! Too much to handle!

9. I hate your Damn Friends! This is touchy because this can be a tangled web! There's always a couple friends folks might not like but overall if your friends suck...OUCH...may be a tough road to drive.

10. Your Parents don't like Her/him. If my momma says youse a lame! It's over..by by! HOLLA BITCH!!

NEW ADDENDUM!! 11. You are terrible with your finances!

Hope to hear many comments from this blog but as you know by now, whether you hype it or hatin on what I have to say, It really doesn't matter. So in case you don't remember, "It's MY World...Ya'll Just Live In IT."

Happy Holidays to all of Ya'll!!

Blog 8: It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It

I'm Baaaaackkk! Ya'll Missed me didn't ya! Don't lie! All I gots to say is can a brother take a Vacation!! Geez! Anyways...Miss ya'll too! And this time I had to really think about what I was going to talk about! My blogs aren't exclusively writings about relationships or love but it seems like that's what Ya'll want to hear. Also, these are blogs ya'll not Novels which means I won't fully explore a topic, but I will give you just enough to think about and join in the discussion by commenting! It took me a minute to put together how this topic affected me and my actions in life. And with this topic and all my topics, by the time I start writing, there has been tons of similar conversations which gives me the base to right about it. So like Tiger Woods! I'm putting the pedal to the medal and sharing what I'm going to discuss today!(thought I was gonna say something nasty huh...Ya'll silly)

"Let Me Clear my Throat".....So without further adieu...today I'm going to talk about how Music has affected my life(as well as yours) and how we interact(Notice the song title in the Quotation marks).

Now before ya'll start chattering about how you waited this long for a blog and all I got to talk about is music...hear me out! Think about your life and how certain songs swayed the way you felt about a relationship or changed the mood of a party or even chose the drink you were drinking that night! For those of you that don't understand, let me go through the drinks that were decided by songs! I'm sure many of you at one time or another was "Rolling Down the Street Smoking endo, sippin on Gin and Juice," while the others were "Makin Luv in da Club" poppin bottles of Cristal. And while some of you turn your head at the last sentence, I guarantee Ya'll "Went down to the corner store, you know what I'm looking for...St.Ides!!"(in my best Nate Dogg voice). Oh and let's not forget downing bottles of that 8Ball..Ole E...Olde English(we all know that shit was nasty). Do I need to go on? Well how about drinking Alize or NUvo or those nasty ass Incredible Hulks? Ugh! So let me get to the meat of this blog and tell you how Music has affected my life and I'm certain as I discuss the topic, Ya'll may remember how music has affected yours!!

Now for Ya'll that don't know, I was born in August of 1975!(wild yeah I know...). That summer the billboard number one song(and still one of my favorites) was a song by Captain and Tennille called "Love will keep us Together." I can remember as a kid watching the hit TV show "Solid Gold" Rocking to this song! Actually I'm listening to it right now in my hotel room! Luvs it! This song in my eyes was the way I saw how relationships were supposed to work. I never knew anyone that got divorced growing up until I think my college years. Obviously that song would soon fade out as times changed and the songs changed!

For everyone that is within a certain age range, I'm sure you can probably remember grooving to Anita Baker on the Radio or Bobbing your head to Freddie Jackson, Keith Sweat, Luther Vandross or tuning in to Video Soul on BET to catch Rachel on Caribbean Rhythms! Then it all changed! Songs became not so innocent and Love was not described as a precious thing to hang on to! We entered the age of Raunchy R&B and Gangsta RAP! And so did I!

Now I'm from the country so although I enjoyed listening to folks in High School like the To Live Crew and "Heeeyyy we want some Pussay," I sure as hell wasn't getting any!! Remember I was still into "Popcorn Luv" Like New Edition! My mindset was to treat every woman as if I would treat my mom!(soon I realized every woman wasn't like my mother, nor to be treated like such)! Anyways, this was the 80's and early 90's! The time where thangs changed! These were the years where you had to "Push It" with Salt N' Pepa, "Do the Butt" with EU and you had to let everyone know that "I wanna Sex you Up" like Color me Bad! In other words, songs influence kids to do things they aren't ready for...hense the rise in teen pregnancies! So hold up for one sec! I know all of you are thinking to yourself and saying...Stacy...are you talking out of both sides of your mouth here? Nope...I gravitated to the other genre I talked about...Gangsta Rap! I used to sit and listen all night long to NWA! "Cuz the Boyz in da Hood are always hard, come talkin that trash we'll pull your card, knowin nothin in life but to be legit...don't quote me boy cuz I ain't said shit!" Man I loved that stuff! Still do! They were some crazy black brothas that just didn't give a fuck and that was me! I could relate...Hell we all got problems! Do I supposed to worry about yours issues more than mine...Hell naw! I was hurt when these guys broke up, they started putting out solo albums. I was pumpin the old Hardcore Ice Cube, and Bone Thugs N'Harmony(Easy E's group), and in Heavy Rotation was DR.DRE(The Chronic)! I can remember going to Howard University in DC for a Recruiting visit and everyone telling me about a guy named Sean Combs(they called him Puffy) that used to go to HU and a guy named Biggie Smalls he brought to Howard Homecoming! Biggie's music he taught the "10 crack commandments" and how you NEVER get high on your own supply! Hense I've never used Drugs! And if you didn't learn anything from that, he shared with you his "Dreams of fuckin and R&B Bitch." And all guys remember that one or had a similar thought.

By this time I had entered my college years and 93' was a classic year for songs! This was the year I learned how to Mix a strong drink of "Gin and Juice" like Snoop Dogg and why it just "Ain't no fun if my homies can't have none! And if that didn't get ya...I was rockin the remix of "Lodi Dodi" cuz I liked to Party! This was also the year of R Kelly and just like Biggie and the "10 Crack Commandments," R Kelly told you about "12 play"...and gave a tutorial of sex for the beginners! I mean how could a young brother not go crazy when you are in the party and "sex me" or "your body's callin" or "Bump N Grind" is playing?? And you know the "Summer Bunnies" were out! So believe me when I saw the Sun Dresses and all, oh yess...some of them "Reminded me of my Jeep"!! UGH...it was to much to resist! And If You didn't have your "Homie, Lover, Friend" you weren't doing to hot! However with all that tension going on...that same year there was an invasion of the WU TANG Clan!! These folks taught me about C.R.E.A.M. and for ya'll that don't know...CASH RULES EVERYTHING AROUND ME! CREAM gets the Money! DOLLA DOLLA BILLS YA'LL! Still Pumps in my head! This was the year that Outkast was tellin us about that "Southernplayalisticcadillacfunkymusic" and made us feel good about being from the south! NAS was "Illmatic"and eventually "Stillmatic" and we learned new dances called the "Humpty Hump" the "Butterfly" and you had to "Ride that train" because "Whoomp or Whoop there it is" whichever you choose kept the party HOT! So in other words, wheter you were "Just Kickin it" with Excape or you letting someone get "Too Close" with Next, be careful because you may feel their nature rise and it's a possibility you will fill a bump on you!

There are tons of songs that has influenced my life and I'm sure I can go on and on but these are only a few of the ones that have stayed in my mind back in the day for whatever reason! It also shows the change in mindset that we have based on the songs that are out! I feel bad for the kids nowadays because I'm sure more folks will be doing interesting things with their "Videofone" and everyone will have a particular interest in "Lollipops." And with that being said i'm sure every lil boy will think "They invented sex!" Yea right!

So folks don't think that these songs are the only ones that has shaped my life, but these are the ones that I could THINK of that details the change in human thinking and how music affects our young lives! I'm sure you have your own songs or verses in songs that shaped what you chose to do or how you did things in life! I mean I remember it being cool for chicks to "Creep" because of TLC and "T-Shirt and Panties on" were the outfits of choice! So in other words don't Judge me! Make a comment on what songs influenced you!

And as always...if you like what I say, Hype it! If you don't, Hate on it...It doesn't really matter, because "It's My World...Ya'll Just Live In It!