A Cautionary Tale

As usual, my first run always is terrible in punctuation and grammar.  I'll edit in another day as these are my real thoughts.  The picture above is an over head view of someone's heart.


When I was a kid, I used to wake up early in the morning and write.  I'd have so many thoughts in my head that the only way I could get over or through anything was to write.  So I did....

And here I am this am.  I debated for weeks about this post, because it's probably the most personal of any post I've ever written.  This is a cautionary tale of heartbreak and how it affects you.  Sigh


I'll start my story on May 14th, at 9:32 pm.   Why do I remember the exact date?  Well because It was pretty significant.  It changed my life.  And little did I know it was the start of me marking dates and times of pain and/or suffering.

Sigh again, I was in love.  Like really in love.  When I was a kid, I just knew that I would go to college, play ball and find someone to spend my life with.  I mean, after all, my parents were married at 19 and 21 respectively and they made it.  Surely I could do the same.  Or so I thought.  Ok, back to the day, I and my prospective future had broken away and her new living situation was a little too close for comfort.  What do I mean by to close?  I mean right in front of me, and with another gentleman.  So close that I could open my door and see inside.  The thought of this haunts me to this day because you can only imagine what I heard or saw, and I did.  I won't get into the details, but let's just say my heart was broken and in a moment of rage, all I could think of was breaking another heart.  I was floored.  No, I really thought I stopped breathing and something else took over my body.  I was no longer the kid from the country, I was something, something unimaginable.  I was dead.  I saw it...I smelled it....I could actually taste it.  Those that know me understand that I have a pretty high level of sensory, especially smell.  Evil has an odor, once you smell it...You will always remember it!

Another time in my life I became crumbled sorta, kinda by choices.  Choices I made, in essence, to avoid being hurt again, but also choices by a great person to stay quiet  I have to be careful here as It's early in the morning per my usual and my thoughts are flowing like the waters of the ocean.  Here I am again, looking at someone wishing I could be someone else's life and it felt good.  Nope, It felt great.  I was never really committal.  Not because I didn't want to, but the circles are so small and I'm a VERY private person.  I have Friends, acquaintances, and some folks I just kick it with when it's convenient.  I didn't need everyone in knowing me or anything about me at that time.  Obviously, that didn't fly over well.  And it didn't!  So fast forward, in life, we all can be on such different timeframes that it can really kill any relationship.  We talked about a family once and I didn't feel ready at the time.  I'm not backtracking now.  I just wasn't!  not that I didn't want one, I just didn't know what I could bring to the table and was scared to not feel prepared.  I also didn't think we were ready at the time.  Too much confusion the time surrounding us and that seemed idiotic at the time in my eyes.  You can only guess what happens from here so I'll skip the details and say I was floored by the outcome.  The predictable outcome didn't come immediately, but many years after.  The same year that I lost one of my best friends, losing my dad, and leaving a job so that I could be more stable and actually start a family.  Yup you heard right.  I laugh now because I remember going home just to sleep and my niece, bless her heart, thought I was on drugs and was ready to do an intervention.  I wasn't on any drugs....However, maybe I was?  Yeah, I overdosed actually and wanted to tap out!

Life goes on and we all move forward and the blessing of it all makes me laugh uncontrollably at times.  It became a joy in my life and I'm thankful for it in whatever capacity I get to enjoy them.

My last story is another cautionary tale of distrust, timing, and feeling like you can work anything out.  I knew them for about 8 years.  Went through a mountain of good and bad with them but for whatever reason, we always stayed connected.  Heck, I even said 3 words to this person.  The 3 words that you can never take back once you've said it and they shared the same sentiment.  I remember the day I said that too, but I won't say the day.  But I will say that the day after, the expression of those 3 words were broken.  I really didn't know the extent of how at the time but I knew whatever happened at the time required extreme caution at the time.  Many years later this person is back into my life and we decide to actually try us as an attempt never really happened.  During this time one of her goals was to reveal her truths.  One of them was, to be honest and that's what she did.  The truth I'll focus on was what really happened years ago.  Now I'd like to act like it didn't bother me, but it did.  It bothered me to no end but I also wanted to push past it.  We decided in the beginning 3 things.  The first thing was that the only reason that we are trying is for permanent(marriage), two, that I need to believe your emotions.  Basically, if you are happy then don't fake happiness and if you are sad then be sad.  I shouldn't, we shouldn't have to guess if what I see is what you actually feel.  The third, was a hum-dinger as I always tell my clients this.  And I quote, "when something goes wrong or you are unhappy about something, please give me the benefit of the doubt and let's talk about it!"  People act like nothing will ever go wrong and that's a complete lie.  Life is about overcoming wrongs!  I banked on this first conversation of wants.  I banked on it!

I have visions.  Visions that I don't understand at the time but I have visions.  Intuition.  As I type, I'm looking at the words "Shadow Box" on my wall.  Means nothing to you, but it shows that the answer is always right in front of you if you pay attention.  So back to my story. this person revealed their truth which I was thankful for but I was determined to stay the course.  It was hard mentally as I'm like wow.  Would I of even talked to them again years ago had I known?  IDK.  Probably a month passes and I had what I call a strong bad feeling as she asked me about someone she knew in the past asking her if it was ok to crash at the pad while he was in town.  My intuition was at an all time high!  Distrust seeped in and I was starting to show it.  My first thought was why is this person even bringing this foolishness to me?  You asking me about a guy wanting to crash that you had dealings with?  Come on?  Really?  You really think I'd be ok with that?  I shut down.  I was listening but I shut down!  The improbable nail in the coffin came a month later.  I was already on edge and a picture popped up that I didn't really wanna see.  Was it terrible?  Not really, but I didn't need that vision in my life at the time as I was trying to push past a few things.  I expressed displeasure but the picture stayed.  Admittedly every emotion that I wanted to share was closed off.  I wanted to say a lot but I couldn't.  My guards wouldn't let me, and the guards to my heart are bigger than I am and way meaner!  Fast forward and I was asked in probably the weirdest night of my life 2 things.  One was about marriage and to be honest, I was still in my mind focused on that but Heck no I didn't know if I wanted to right then.  We were still working ...and My plan was to continue working towards that goal.  That was the last time I saw her.  No seriously, I called, I text, emailed and even sent flowers.  Nothing.  A year later, I got a text that bugged the shit out of me and through that text I expressed everything that I had been holding back for a year.  On deaf ears.  I was pissed.  I hated this person.  All I wanted was a chance to explain last year.  Who knew that I'd never get a chance to even see them again.  And why are you willing to listen now?  I hated them.  I pushed past many things and I couldn't even get a conversation?

Writing helps me express myself as I'm not perfect.  I have flaws.  I have insecurities.  I'm human.  I was told once that I come across as nothing bothers me.  I'm always surprised by those comments because that tells me you don't really know me and If you feel that way, there's a good reason you don't know me.  I bleed, I laugh, I cry, I'm a real person!  I tell these stories as a cautionary tale of how situations can kick you in the throat.  We wake up and try again as we are hopeful.  I am hopeful.  I am ....well, Human!

LOVE JONES

Jones

Can be used as a verb (Jonesing) or a noun (a jones). Describes a state in which one experiences strong desire or attraction, often of a sexual nature. Equiv. "to fancy" "crushing on" "to want"

She's been jonesin him for months.
He's got a major jones for her.

I put the definition of the word above to assist those that have never seen the movie or have no idea what I'm referring to going forward.  Now that I've explained this, let's begin.

Love Jones...If any of you have ever seen this classic movie, you know that it is the epitome of how Love gets complicated.  How insecurities, pride, and just F'n bad communication assist the struggles of life.  Around minute fifty-three, Nina gets a call from her ex.  Yes the one that she still has a feeling for but won't admit to it.  In her efforts to make sure the new love interest is real, she and her girlfriend set up a "test."  The test is to be upfront a mention visiting the ex and if the new interest plays too cool then she should continue with her plan to see her ex.  Her new interest listens to her thoughts and figures if you are bringing it up then you must want to go.  I can't hold you back from doing what you want to do.  This question starts the avalanche that will soon follow.

I never really liked that F'n movie!  However, that movie is so true in many ways.  Far too often things are left open to interpretation, and we know interpretation is just another word for ASSUME....We made an ASS out of U and ME!  From a male perspective, if you are bringing up another dude, that tells us that you are still interested in them.  Major Red Flags!  Women want to test you and see what your interest is in them before they make a decision.  in essence, it's robbery, no, Highway Robbery of your emotions.  It happens far too often.  Then the blame game starts and the insecurities,  jealousy, and lack of trust will soon follow.  There's a saying that goes "Keep your friends close and your enemies closer."  However, what happens when your friend becomes your enemy?  Mis-communication is the best way to turn a friend into your worst enemy.  Why?  Because you know them and they know you.

Not a rambling post as normal since it's been so long, but I just wanted to share.

I CHOOSE YOU!

Acting like a Monkey usually attracts other Monkeys!!................. As you marinate on that statement I'll say hello to those that actually read my blogs and yes I know it's been a while. To be honest, I didn't really like the attention even if ever so small that I was getting and decided to stop writing my blogs. However, This is also how I release my thoughts and just like anything creative, if you put it out for folks to see, you will get attention...I'm now at peace with that fact. Same format...probably extremely poor punctuation as I Throw up on the page my thoughts. ACTING LIKE A MONKEY, USUALLY ATTRACTS OTHER MONKEYS Not a day passes where I don't read some crap on the internet about how to attract a woman or a man or how to get more business etc. The fact is 90% of us have no problem finding/attracting a mate....the issues is keeping them around, or even being kept! In other words...Whether you choosing or being Chose....the Monkey Spit you do keeps you from being kept! And we've all done it! So before you start acting like this does not pertain to you, let me go ahead and say....YOSE a LIE! I'll start with a simple example....Jameis Winston is a great Quarterback for the Florida State Seminoles, but the Dumb Spit that he gets involved in makes folks in the hood doubt his intelligence....In other words....He's doing dumb Spit! Not a football fan? Ok, many of you watch ratchet TV so I'll use the TV show Scandal as an example. Beautiful, successful Olivia Pope has two powerful white men literally trying to kill each in attempt to gain the love and affection of this woman. Some of yall see this as cute and wish you had someone to love and care for you in the same manner....Stop Thinking Dumb Monkey Spit! People really die over situations....I promise you men and ladies, if you put a significant other in a situation, you or someone you care for will get hurt or you may end up in a Ray Rice situation! Yep I said it....got a problem with it, address it. Now that I've caught your attention I shall move on to what we really want to talk about. As Grown folks, we must watch the way we carry ourselves in public as you never know who's watching, and EVERYONE is Paparazzi! Just a fact! We can sit around and say it ain't fair and that i'm going to do what I'm going to do, but be prepared to be labled as a Monkey! Don't believe me....let me name some monkeys that this time a year or two ago were cool folks...Bill Cosby, Ray Rice, Wendy Williams(terrible movie). You get what I'm saying! We all go out and about and observe folks from the other sex....we look at how they carry themselves in public and we all judge! Don't believe me again....you're kidding yourself. What do we do? Put folks in Dating category or just having a good time with category? We all know it, but we think for whatever reason that for some strange reason somebody will look past our extreme flirting, Lies, Craziness and want to be with them....Could it happen? Yes, does it happen, Yes....but your odds have decreased Drastically. If we want to genuinely be chosen, then we have to make that pathway to see who we really are, a bit easier...Transparency is what I call it. What kind of example are we showing others as to how we would be if we were with them, employed by them, or doing business with them? Stop Acting like a Monkey! 

 With all this being said, it's hella fun doing crazy spit, but if you want to be chose, Be mindful! I don't know who else is looking, but I know I see you out hollerin at every lady in the bar/club, Ladies I see you up in every dudes face making'em jealous, Young folks I see your Facebook videos telling all your business and cursing out some chick or dude that ticked you off. This service announcement is just a warning to stop doing Monkey Spit....At some point...We never know who's choosin!

http://bleacherreport.com/articles/2270707-kevin-hart-tells-jameis-winston-to-stop-doing-dumb-s-t-makes-crab-leg-joke

It's My World...Yall Just Live in it.......The Representative!

Is it really necessary to have to act like a totally different person to see me? Do I have to talk in a different way when I'm around you to cover up my slang? Why is it that I have to tell you I'm a professional ball player for you to act like you're interested? Does the fact that I own a home or drive a Mercedes attract you more than my personality? Is it NOT possible to tell you the God's honest truth without you taking some passive aggressive stance?

DOES THIS FEEL LIKE QUESTIONS YOU'VE ASKED YOURSELF IN THE PAST? If so then is it really worth the trouble? In my opinion NOT AT ALL! What face do you wear? And why?

I've always had troubles in my dating/relationship life specifically in the fact that I never liked trying to be someone I wasn't! I'm not going to be all jiggy'd up every time I see you. I'm not going to act like I'm some balla and buy out the bar just to impress you! As a matter of fact...I'm a country boy! I like a home cooked meal(yes I can cook), I love being social, and different experiences excite me! Who are ya'll? Do you know? Are you ok with showing who you are and accepting the fact that you are not for everyone?

Ok so enough with all the questions, lets get down to the nitty gritty! Boy meets girl, girl thinks guy is "OK" on paper so she gives boy a chance. During this time boy is taking her to every movie that comes out, calling her each day and sending text messages every hour just say "hello." Not only that, but boy is even missing the Lakers/Bulls game on TV so he can take girl out to see the new Think Like a Man movie....which he really doesn't care to see! WTF boy asks...After all this stuff I've done why isn't she giving it up yet?

During this time, Lady dresses up in the most sensual and some what seductive clothes that she can find, makes sure she wears that smell good perfume that her ex-boyfriend loved so much because she knows the reaction she gets. Girl then proceeds to laugh at all of boys jokes during their interactions, and tries her best to seem like she's really interested in every story boy brings up! WTF, when will it stop? Girl asks? Damn he's shallow girl thinks! Doesn't he notice my hair? He hasn't even mentioned if he likes it or not!

My question to all this is why? I understand that it's great to look good, smell good or show someone your best qualities, but when does "The Representative" leave and the real YOU joins the party? Ya'll know what I mean, girl figures out that boy has an extremely potty mouth, boy finds out that girl smashed a couple of the homies, girl finds out that boy doesn't really own a Mercedes, but it's really his dads, boy finds out that girl spends more money on her weave then she does paying her rent!! All this Trickin off messes things up for the genuine folks! Guys, why do we constantly trust a big booty and a smile? Gals, why do you always get with Mr.Wrong?

This is one topic that I cannot speak for everyone else on, but I feel that everyone has asked themselves at one point or another....why? Folks used to ask me all the time why I was single, and the answer usually was because I wanted to be that way. Not so much that I wanted to be by myself, but because I wanted to be with someone that I felt I could share my life with(which is a difficult task for everyone). The thing that I value most is TIME and True Friendship. I personally don't feel like spending my time around folks that I don't want to be around and this still reigns true today! Conversation, Loyalty, great conversation are things that I value to it's fullest! What do ya'll value most? I think many folks go overboard spending time on things that their mates don't hold a high value towards. I know many folks use "acts of kindness" to show they care, others use words, and some buy things for their mates. However, do we know what really tickles the others fancy? Probably not! Have you asked your partner? Have you thought about it? You should!!


Whose time are you wasting? What Mask do you wear? Nothing is guaranteed!


Till next time! Enjoy!

It's My World...Yall Just Live in it...So enjoy it while you have it!

"And I-, I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference."

Every since I was a kid it seems like at times I would purposefully choose the harder path. Don't get me wrong I would of loved to of had success given to me, but that was never the case. I wasn't naturally a strong guy, playing sports and being good at it took some work, and I wasn't always the best student. With all that being said it's not like I started off terrible, but it did take a lot of work on my part to make many aspects of my life acceptable. The grind keeps me focused actually and I believe everything takes work. Not trying to make this blog into a relationship convo but I do believe that everything takes work. Furthermore I think I'm moreso drawn to things that take a little effort to achieve! In my eyes, though it may seem like the world is going to end at the moment, If you are passionate about it enough, you go after it and when you get it, you hold it tight. I always wanted to play football growing up but it took a lot of work to get to where that goal was attained. I am truly greatful for that experience. Many people in my opinion quit way before it's time. Not saying they are quitters, but I think that they fail to see past the bullshit that we all have to go through sometimes or we just want an easier path! Historically, I've chosen the road less traveled.

"Long I stood and looked down one as far as I could, to where it bent in the undergrowth."

We all have to evaluate the good and the bad, pros and cons of every situation we are in before, during, and after to see if it's even worth it or if we should bail. Let's face it, life isn't always about how we play the game. Sometimes it's about wins and losses! I personally must admit that I loose multiple times each day in some capacity. Many times I wake up and want to quit or just lay in the bed but I have Goals. Tangible Goals that if I stay in the bed or don't push forward then I feel I'm one day behind in achieving those goals. One monkey don't stop no show...Even if the Monkey is the person in the mirror! I've been that monkey many times before.

"And sorry I could not travel both and be one traveler'

Many times we analyze the situation more than we should. I've been known to go with a gut feeling on several occasions. If it feels right and there are no glaring issues I usually go with what I feel. Usually the people I'm around can't understand that, but that's because most of the people I hang around are quite analytical. I've learned to trust my instincts. Hey, It's gotten me this far!~

"Then took the other just as fair, and having perhaps the better claim, because it was grassy and wanted wear; though as for the passing there had worn them really about the same."

Normally decisions have similar pros and cons but we all have to make decisions and live with them. Some bad and some good. It's called life. Remember I'm a multiple looser, but I wake up every day with a fresh slate to make that day a better day. My thoughts and feelings 10, 5, 3 years ago aren't the same as they are today and some are similar. Who is the same person however? If you stay the same you probably aren't doing much with yourself. My mom always reminds me how her and my pops had to work at their relationship over the years, but Love was what kept them together. I think that's what always stuck in my mind when dealing with any woman in my life. If at every moment they wanted to leave it was hard for me to mentally allow them back into my life. In the back of my mind Id always feel like it was only a matter of time before they left. Amazing how these reality shows always show how to find a man, or show various dating techniques, but none focus on KEEPING a relationship. Which in my opinion is the key!

"I shall be telling this with a sigh somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood and I-I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference."

I'm not ashamed to say that my thinking changed drastically after my father and one of my best friends died 2 months apart from each other. For the longest I was focused on the grind to be successful and when I slowed down my grind I realized how successful I was already! Also, within the last year or so I've had a few folks pop up that I haven't heard from in years tell me how I changed their lives. Was kinda shocking to hear! Furthermore, I spend the last 4 years traveling all the time for someone else! No More! My goals are to focus on my life first and uplifting those who surround it. I'm focused on making my family better. The one that I currently have, and the one that I hope to have one day.

"Two roads diverged in a wood and I-I took the one less traveled by, and that has made all the difference." This is the story that I will be sharing somewhere ages and ages hense.

Oh yeah...Enjoy!

It's My World....Boyz will be Boyz!!

They say that Pimpin ain't easy, they also say that pain is just weakness leaving the body! Well the way I see it, Pimpin can put you in jail, broke, or in the hospital, and many times pain is nothing more than that....PAIN! As a guy, we are taught as a kid to handle physical pain! I can remember as a kid if I fell off my bike I could hear my father now...."Boy...Stop that crying!" Or if someone in your neighborhood lost a fight and started to cry...We would still be talking about how much of a bitch you were back then.

Now before I get into the nitty gritty of what I'm talking about today I want to once again state the fact that I am no expert! The things I talk about in my blogs are my experiences...In my world...That ya'll just happen to live in! Some of these stories may resemble something you have been though personally, but I assure you that you are not the only one, otherwise the topic would not of made my blog. In actuality, my blogs are written from a onslaught of thoughts and viewpoints shared about the same thing in a short amount of time.

OK, where was I? Oh yeah, PAIN! As little boyz we are conditioned to deal with physical pain! Break your leg...don't cry! Loose a tooth in a bad fall or a fight...dang, he's a little soldier! You choke on a bone and pass out from loss of air! Dang isn't he a tough little rascal. However, How do we react when we loose a loved one in death, or in a relationship?? Let's explore the latter!

There are 2 types of guys...One that is into you, and one that Could really care less about you! Point Blank! Now being "into you," doesn't necessarily mean he is ready to marry you, or mean that they want you to be the mother of their children(doesn't mean they aren't either)! What it does mean is that if you take away the physical, they truly like you as a person first and foremost! It means they enjoy hanging around you, being in your presence and even more they have no issue with folks seeing you two together in public! Myself included, I can think of only a handful of women that I have been truly into. They made a movie about this actually, "He's not that into you." I haven't seen it but I'm sure it's interesting! We know the story of a guy not being into you, but what happens when he is very into you and things take a turn for the worst? Many of yall probably see where I'm going with this and may think I'm talking about your situation? Nope...You are not the only one! But I am talking about Guys, Men, Boyz! Ladies!? How many times have you seen were a guy gets out of a relationship with a woman that he was "into"(not by his choice) and the very next woman he meets she becomes wifey? Why is that? I'll tell you why? Many men have what I call Poor DIk Control! Now for you analytical folks...Dik Control isn't what you think it is! Dik control in this definition is basically Males having no control over their own emotions...and since Men have Penis' I refer to it as Poor Dik Control! Got it? Good!

Dik Control stems from childhood as I discussed earlier. The guy knows how to handle physical pain(or be a man as they say), however he struggles to handle emotional pain or non-physical emotional situations! Now I'm not saying that he doesn't know how to express his emotions, I'm saying he can't control them! Example: I feel 100% that the majority of dudes would love to have a good woman by their side whether in a committed relationship or in marriage. HOWEVER, Your boyz Jagged Edge Screwed things up years ago with their song on Marriage! One verse even says "we ain't getting no younger we might as well do it." OK so is that why you want to marry someone? Cuz you not getting any younger...I call it Poor Dik Control. Another example: Guy is into girl, girl breaks up with guy, and guy is hurt. Guy can't handle the loss of the girl he was so into. Guy finds out she has a new boo within a few weeks or months after the break up. Guy sends constant emails, texts, and calls to try and get her back with no progression so guy goes out and gets married to the next woman he meets... I call that poor dik control. One last example. Guy is with girl, that he is "into" of course, girl convinces the guy to stop hanging out with his friends because she doesn't like them....I call that Poor Dik Control! Are you getting the Idea of what I'm saying yet? Let's dive in further! There are tons of examples that I could give on poor dik control but I'm sure ya'll can think of some yourself. Every guy experiences a lack of dik control at one point of time! Just like anything else, somethings you just have to experience before you truly understand how to handle situations. Heck, many of us have never been taught proper Dik Control Management, as a high percentage of black males did not grow up with a father, who in my opinion had poor dik control. When you first start dating, my pops and I'm certain other fathers probably told their sons this quote or something similar..."Do NOT start doing something with a young woman that you don't plan on continuing!" This was my first lesson in proper Dik Control Management! Basically he was telling me to be respectful but not to start something (opening car doors, Holding the door open, always driving, always paying for meals, etc) that you don't plan on continuing! If you do, you are building an expectation that you will get burned by in the long run. Be real, be genuine, and believe in who you are and your values! Be willing to compromise but do not change who you are! Find someone that complements you and does not bring you down! And last, make sure she has respect for herself...because without that...she will NEVER RESPECT YOU! Nice guys don't always finish last, but a stupid one always will!



I'll leave you with a prayer that I got from one of my homies...I cannot change the past, but grant me the courage and the wisdom, and the understanding to focus on my future and my today!

Take care ya'll...hope you enjoy!

Oh and PS: Jagged Edge Song!
http://youtu.be/IuKDg5xncPY

Long, Short, Out, Or HOLD....Investing 101

Investments are risky. They don't provide fixed returns and past performance doesn't guarantee future results. All investments entail the risk of great and sudden financial loss. Returns vary and you may have a gain or loss when you sell your securities.

No assurance is given that anything described here will be successful.


I'm sure most of yall are thinking I this blog was about the stock market? Some of you maybe even thought that I was going to give a few stock market tips....Well you're all right! Investing 101...Long, Short, Out....Or Hold!

When I was in College one of my best friends used to tell me that I looked at women like the stock market. Unapologetic at the time, I disagreed, however the older I get, the more I wonder if there is some validity in her statement.

Long(Buy), Short(sell), Out, or Hold! These are the questions I ask myself each day when I trade, and furthermore I must admit that I ask this same question each time I meet a young lady(or old woman)...Yall know I have to keep it lighthearted). Now before I start I know there could be a few women out there that reads this blog and have opinions that I sound sexist. My response is...I don't screw guys so when you get a blog you can voice your own opinion. Now...Back to the regularly scheduled program. Let me explain the dynamics of what I mean with the terms Long, Short, Out, or Hold. As most of you already know, guys are attracted to physical beauty first and foremost. I am no different! The moment myself and most men meet a woman that they deem as physically attractive the "BUY" sign comes out, or UP if you know what I mean! Obviously there are other factors in these definitions I'm giving but I think most of yall understand the base of what I'm trying to say. The next Market tip is "Short." Shorting the market usually happens when you don't see things going up but starting to go down. For those that don't know you can make money when the market goes down. A short could be someone that you see as attractive but she's just now what you want. She's to wild for you, She a lil to ghetto(yup I said it), you don't trust her, the homies used to run thru her, all these factors make you want to short the market. How do you make money you ask? Well, the answer is that she's good in bed so you keep her around till the market changes.(Ladies do it too). The issue with shorting the market is that it can come up and bite you when the market turns positive. The same for life! The next definition is self Explanatory. "OUT"!! Basically nothing you see or hear is worth taking the chance on! In life terms, She could be physically attractive(most of the time she's not), but she is Crazy, just plain trouble! Hopefully you find this out sooner rather than later! The last definition I have for my daily market plan is "HOLD." Hold is exactly what you think the definition is...HOLD! However, just like the trading the market, Very Few stocks are a true long term hold where you go through all the ups and downs and market crashes and recovery's and 52 week highs and Historic lows and then after years of Holding this stock you look up at your statement and say WOW...This stock has been good to me! I can't let go. I won't let go...It continually makes me money! Some folks think they have a great stock to "Hold" and it turns out to be a dud! Why is that? Lets explore

One of the key factors in trading is EMOTIONS! Emotions will get you in trouble each and every time! Humans are habitual creatures by nature...so does the market. In other words, if you can slightly take a bit of your emotions out of thing and find our the market patters you will be on the right side of the market more times then you will be on the wrong. NOTICE I DID NOT SAY YOU WILL ALWAYS BE RIGHT! NOR did I say to completely kill your emotions! I said slightly take a bit of your emotions out of your thinking. Each day I start with the facts...What do I see, what are you doing, and what have you done. From there I can look at my trades from an open eye and know exactly when to go Long, Short, or Out. Holding rarely happens so I didn't mention that point on purpose. In reference to people...everyone has a pattern, what is it? Everyone has history, What is it? Everyone you meet you can ask the question to yourself...Long, Short, Out...or Hold...There are no guarantees of being right....You may miss an opportunity for being wrong, but the game is to be on the right side of the market more then you are on the wrong.

Oh and P.S...Chart and document all your trades. It helps you figure out what you did right and what you did wrong and what you did right.

I'll leave yall with a traders quote that we say each day. "Trade hard, Trade smart, and always end the day being able to trade tomorrow!"